16 December 2017

not i - the flip side of #metoo

when I was a child, none of the boys in the neighborhood tried to show me their penis. in elementary school, no boy tried to hold my hand, none chose to sit next to me on the bus, none offered to carry my books, no boy tried to kiss me. in junior high, a boy tied my jumper sash to the chair in study hall, but he never tried to touch me and he grew up to be gay.

i was smart, but not popular. i was cis, but not sexy. i did not get invited to parties or to dances or on dates. as a high school senior and beyond, i had boyfriends, relationships, broken hearts, but i didn't get put in situations where i felt powerless.

boys and men have always treated me with standoffish respect. i've never been cat called. i've never been made to feel uncomfortable. my colleagues invariably shake my hand - they don't hug me or touch me in other ways. they don't say inappropriate things.

i am not subject to harassment.

not i.

do i have more control over these things than the #metoo crowd? i doubt it. i don't think it works that way. i don't know how it works. was i too ugly to attract attention? too smart? too androgynous? too snarky?

who knows.

the thing is, tho... all this #metoo and i can't help but wonder why #noti.

05 December 2017

books 2017

clearly, i have forgotten how to read....

voyager - diana gabaldon
the content trap - bharat anand
harry potter and the cursed child - jk rowling
drums of autumn - diana gabaldon

wise man's fear - patrick rothfuss
ready player one - ernest cline
the name of the wind - patrick rothfuss
the thing about luck - cynthia kadohata
the hundred lies of lizzy lovett - chelsea sedoti
the rest of us just live here - patrick ness
the secret place - tana french
broken harbor - tana french
fate of the tearling - erika johansen
invasion of the tearling - erika johansen
the learners - chip kidd
sebastian darke, prince of fools - philip caveney
dancing barefoot - wil wheaton
furthermore - tahere mafi
bossypants - tina fey
no you cannot touch my hair - phoebe robinson
stories i only tell my friends - rob lowe
scrappy little nobody - anna kendrick
a great and terrible beauty - libba bray
define normal - julie ann peters
i was here - gayle forman
bones on ice - kathy reichs
a great reckoning - louise penny
the nature of the beast - louise penny
the long way home - louise penny
how the light gets in - louise penny
the beautiful mystery - louise penny
hex hall - rachel hawkins
the snow queen - michael cunningham
trick of the light - louise penny
harry potter and the deathly hallows - jk rowling
bury your dead - louise penny
the girl in the red coat - kathy hamer
the brutal telling - louise penny
the content trap - bharat anand
harry potter and the prisoner of azkaban - jk rowling
harry potter and the half-blood prince - jk rowling
emerald green - kierstin gier